Murder Close to Home
This is just all too sad for words.
There’s this article, from the Gazette.
An exerpt:
Two months ago, a Charleston woman got a domestic violence protective order against her husband, the man whom police said strangled her to death over the weekend.
Clarence “Trey” Morton Ilderton III, 34, was ordered to attend Alcoholics Anonymous meetings twice a week and temporarily move out of the couple’s McGovran Road apartment, according to police and a domestic violence protective order she filed on Aug. 18.
Robin Renee Ilderton, 35, was found dead at the couple’s South Hills apartment on Monday. Her husband was not supposed to return to the apartment until February.
The murdered woman, Robin Ilderton, lived approximately one minute from my house. That’s scary-close to home. And their small child was home when the murder took place.
There’s a page of statistics on Intimate Partner Violence (”IPV”) here. I find it all alarming and horrible.
I gather from what I’ve read about this guy, Trey Ilderton, that he’s got some mental health issues. no excuse, of course, but it makes it scarier to me.
Sadness…
October 20th, 2005 at 10:42 am
I unfortunately know Trey’s family very well. I am from their home town and all of High Point is talking about it. Sad is the understatement of the day. The victims are Robin, her sons and their immediate family. The Ildertons are left with “cleaning” up his mess. I know from reliable sources that his father did all that he could do to get him help. They come from a very affluent family in our hometown and his parents and immediate family are in complete and total shock by his actions. They will not support him financially. Word has it that he thought that he could get off because he is an Ilderton…not true. His family will NOT pay for any form of legal team. He has had his chances and choose to take Robin’s life and their son’s mother. He is lucky that West Virginia does not have the death penalty. Mentally off balance…of course! However, he seemed rather versed when speaking with the reporters the day after he killed Robin and left her body in the bathtub! He knew exactly what to say and how to say it. What concerns me the most is what kind of system allows a man, who is clearing mentally disturbed, visitation with such a small child? If he couldn’t harm Robin, didn’t they think that maybe he could have had the capacity to take it out on their son?
October 24th, 2005 at 9:03 pm
My name is Jessica, and I am proud to say that Robin Bailes Owsley was a great friend to me. Trey is an evil person who deserves to spend the rest of his life in prison and die there. I just wanted to say what I remember of Robin everyone who knew her will remember what an enormous laugh she had and how much she loved her children. Trey slowly and surely cut her off from everyone who loved and cared about her, I was lucky enough to run into her at Michaels In June and when she saw me she just broke down and cried and said she was sorry for not being in contact but he was crazy and she was going to try to get away from him, I hugged her for a long time and told her I understood and that i loved her and I would be there if she needed me, I thank god everyday for that hug. I know now she is in gods loving embrace and doesn’t have to suffer anymore. I love and miss you my friend.
October 24th, 2005 at 10:42 pm
Dear Ashley & Jessica-
This is hardly a popular blog, and I’m sure you found it by searching on Robin’s name. Nonetheless, I thank you for writing and sharing your stories.
Since this tragedy took place, I have only heard wonderful, positive things about Robin.
We should not have to tell this story again - that is, let us not lose another friend (or sister, mother, daughter, or neighbor…) to violence of this kind. It has got to stop.
I pray that Robin’s death will come to have meaning, perhaps it can be the point in time that Kanawha County, WV, says, “No more!”
We need to learn to be aware of the signs, how to speak up when we see them, how to intervene and get women out of those situations. Women need to learn to understand their worth, their own special beauty, and that they are whole whether or not they have a man - and most certainly that they do not have to live in fear.
Of course, none of this can be done without the active participation of the officials who arrest and prosecute abusers - so we need to write letters and make phone calls to get some action.
Let Robin’s death not be in vain. May she rest in peace.
-Franque
November 14th, 2005 at 9:54 am
I was a coworker of Trey Ilderton when he breifly lived in Southern California. I am shocked to hear of this deeply distrubing event. I was up late tonight, and decided to do a search on an old friend- Trey. And to my horror, I found this news. In the brief time he and I were working and hanging out, I thought of Trey as a strange, creative, somewhat odd person- but harmless enough. I never thought he would be capable of this act. I am shaken to the core.
January 11th, 2006 at 10:46 pm
Robin is my cousin and I loved her very much. She was so beautiful and so well liked by everyone. She would do anything for anyone. I know she is in heaven waiting for all of her family and friends. Now we can only pray for her kids. The laws in WV have got to change. Though none of that will help the past, but may help someone in the future. I hope justice is served. We miss you Robin.
October 10th, 2006 at 2:54 pm
I know this happened a year ago, and I feel deeply for RObins family, but I have to say that I went to school w/Trey and they Trey I know could not purposely hurt anyone. He was always a caring individual. THis is a very tragic situation.
October 17th, 2006 at 10:47 pm
Did Trey play college basketball at West Virginia State Back in the late 80’s, early 90’s? I played basketball for WVSC during the 90-91 season and my roommate/teamate was a Trey Ilderton. He was a year ahead of me and was from well-tp-do family in West Virginia…….Logan, WV if I recall correctly. I recall he was spoiled, had a temper and was VERY high strung! Sad to hear of such events!
October 22nd, 2006 at 12:57 am
Thank god that I am priveleged enough to say that I loved Robin, envied Robin, and had the chance to be Robin’s friend. When something so beautiful is in your immediate path you have 2 choices: to accept that beauty or disrupt that beauty. My experience led me to accept her natural beauty/chemistry and watch it unfold into adulthood. I missed all of the truly ugly things that led up to her relationship with TI. I only hope that Fred, Janet and others read the exerpts from her friends and remember the real beauty that was within. KLV
November 18th, 2006 at 12:10 am
Hello
I am Tevin Owsley, Robin’s oldest son. It has been over a tear since the incisdent of her death, although in my heart sh never died. She continues to live with me and guide me through all of my problems. For the people that have cared enough to post comments about her I thank you. May her soul always live on. I love you mom.
Tevin Warren Scott Owsley
February 1st, 2007 at 1:30 am
I regret for the same…I don’t know why some people are doing murders like this…
Don Lapre Zach
December 15th, 2007 at 7:04 am
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June 6th, 2008 at 12:24 am
I dated Trey off and on for years in mid-late 90’s. I have tried hard to forget him. But occasionally memories of his crazy behavior haunt me. Tonight was the first time I’ve tried to find out what happened to him since I last heard from him in 2002. Honestly I expected him to be dead. But I never imagined I would find this.
Unexplainably, Trey always managed to find his way into the heart of good women. My heart breaks for Robin and the wonderful life she was robbed of, and for her children and their tremendous loss, and for Trey and Robin’s son - who will never have a father or a mother.
I am thankful but also frightened to realize that I am lucky to be alive.
June 6th, 2008 at 6:31 pm
hi i am chloe clark i was tevin owsleys sister but now he is a close friend of mine and i will never forget the things he told me about her
chloe clark
June 16th, 2008 at 11:47 pm
I was one of Robin’s best friends. She was a year older than me and went to different schools. But somehow she knew my friends I hung out with and I knew her friends that she hung with in school. But we never met until we worked together at Teays Valley Medicine and Rehab.
I had many conversations with Trey and I can tell you that he is bipolar but not crazy. A year before he killed her, he told me in confidence that if she ever tried to take his son, he would kill her. I told her this begging and pleading her to leave him. But she simply said she didn’t want to raise another son without his father. She was trying to keep the family together for her son’s sake. She emplored Trey’s mother and father to go and get a mental hygiene warrant on Trey. When it came time to do this, both of them backed down. So, they did not do everything in their power to help their son! All Robin wanted to do was get medication for Trey. He was self medicating with alcohol and marijuana. Trey may have bipolar disorder, but what he did to Robin was cold and very carefully calculated. I was one of the star witnesses in the prosecution’s case against Trey. I can tell you know that I did not want to testify because I know that Robin wouldn’t want that. Her words rang in my ears everyday, “I just want to get him help to make him better.” Some people think I am crazy for not wanting to testify, but I know what Robin wanted. We had long discussions about her marriage and her children.
She loved life and people. Everyone that she knew or when she first met someone new, they felt very special because that is how she made you feel all the time. She always smiled no matter what was going on in her life. She was always doing crossword puzzles. When I asked why she did them 24/7, she simply replied that her mother died at an early age of alzhimers and she didn’t want the same thing to happen to her. She wanted to be around for her great-grandchildren. How ironic, huh?
It has been a little over 2 1/2 years and I miss her tremendously. She had a big impact on my life and I will never forget her. I still mourn her.
For her children: Please know your mother is watching over you and will always be there for you.
Robin, I love you and miss you always.
September 14th, 2008 at 7:14 am
All ‘ s well that ends well
September 14th, 2008 at 10:51 am
someone don’t know what meaning of life?
How to Caution for a Loved One along with Alzhimers
September 19th, 2008 at 11:35 am
fields of gold
September 24th, 2008 at 11:17 am
I wonder how the real estate agent is going to sell the apartment after such horrid acts were committed in it. Such news is important, though, to the property buyer. This Singapore Property site archives such news under MyResearch. I would like to see more real estate sites contain such archives for the benefit of the buyer too.
November 9th, 2008 at 6:33 am
Hey, very interesting post.
My written English is not so good so I write in German:
“Lieber den Spatz in der Hand, als die Taube auf dem Dach.”
Yours sincerely
Detektei
January 4th, 2009 at 9:56 pm
Wow, that’s pretty crazy stuff there. I hope that dude gets what he deserves. You should never put your hands on a women.