did you ever feel….
… like you were sleepwalking through parts of your own life? That you have no control? Or maybe that you’d given your power away?
Agnes and I have been talking about such stuff; she maintains that knowing that she gave her husband her power (some years ago) does not necessarily make it easier to reclaim it.
One of those “I know this intellectually and yet cannot act on it in my own -real- life” situations.
This makes me wonder about relationships and why one person would want to take another’s power. Oh, c’mon, I’m not talking about role playing and that sort of thing. I am talking about real-life human relationships. (yes, okay, a nod to the role-playing crowd - didn’t mean to diss’ you - but I’m talking about relationships that are ongoing, in and out of the house, and do not require safewords.)
ANYWAY… am I the queen of digression or WHAT?! … I don’t understand either side of that coin, to be honest. That should not imply, however, that I can’t imagine it or that I might not even have my own personal experiences with such stuff. (Go as Agnes… she’s 10 feet tall…) (I know, HUH?!)
Here’s the real question: How do some people become controlling? How is it that they feel GOOD about intimidating someone else? Surely at some level such people know that they plow over the people who are their significant others, that they have an active role in minimizing the self esteem of their loved ones. Don’t they? Is it all subconscious? And it if IS subconscious, what would have to have happened in that (controlling) person’s life to bring about such befavior?
Finally, what would have had to have happened in the other person’s life to allow such a thing to happen - to give up their power?